I’ve been struggling with something this week. Am I more than just a Mom? Have you ever thought this? Growing up, I knew I wanted to be a mom. I also wanted to be an environmental lawyer- and that didn’t happen! But I am a mom now, and I have been for over 3 years now. I remember that while I was on maternity leave, I would dream that my husband would come home from work and say “good news honey, you can stay home and not take her to a daycare where strangers will watch her”- but it didn’t happen. Not until she was 8 months old anyways, and he lost his job and we moved for another job offer.
Since then, I’ve been “just” a mom. She depends on me for everything, even though she is pretty independent, so I keep thinking of myself as “just” a mom, but I am MORE than that!
- I am a WIFE even though I feel like I may neglect that role many times to be a Mom
- I am a DAUGHTER even though I live far away from my mom
- I am a SISTER even though I don’t get to see them every day
- I am a FRIEND and this one I work hard to maintain and make sure that I am as much of a friend as my friends are to me
- I am a PHOTOGRAPHER- now, I’m not a professional, but I usually like photos I take more than ones I can get done professionally
- I am a RUNNER and this one is relatively new to me, but very important also
- I am a SWEAT PINK AMBASSADOR and that is one of my favorite things about my new running venture!
- I am a CHRISTIAN and I have a church home and love that I am continuing to grow spiritually every week that I attend
- I am a COUPONER and no I do not have a 6 year supply of toilet paper- 6 months at most is usually my limit
- I am a WRITER even though my professors in college didn’t always agree with the way I wrote
- I am a HARD WORKER no matter what it is I am doing
I could think of several other roles I play that prove that I am MORE than “just” a mom, but my main point is that I can do other things, not just “mom” things. A job interview prompted this line of thinking. I found this job advertised online and I couldn’t make it to apply when they asked because we were sick with the flu. I was bummed, but figured something else would come along. But then the job was posted again, so I appeared in person and spoke with them and they seemed eager to learn more about me. I learned a lot about the job responsibilities and it sounded like a job I could do really well, and that I would enjoy. So I was excited when they called me for an interview!
I went to the interview thinking of all the ways I could tell them that I would do a great job, but the questions were more routine than that. So when I left I thought, wait, I didn’t give them examples of how I would do each part of the job! But, I thought my reputation would help, along with how I answered the questions.
It wasn’t enough. I got an email on Friday (while we were on vacation), that though my qualifications were good, they weren’t good enough and they are seeking someone else. So I texted the friends that were waiting to hear and then pushed it aside for the weekend so I could have fun with my family.
But the more I thought about it, the more I was bothered. I would do a great job, I know I would. For some reason they don’t think I would. And I’m not sure if they called to ask my references or not, but I know if they knew me better, they would know I could do a fantastic job for them. So it’s their loss I guess. Maybe they will interview a few more people and then realize I was the right person. One can hope, right?
My husband always says my enemy is my degree- I am over qualified for many entry level positions. And it’s true. I am over qualified. And I understand that places have been burned by people just quitting when they find something in their field. But I can honestly say I am not seeking employment in my degree field. That would require going back to school and I am not doing that at this time. In the future, I may pursue that, but it’s many years down the road. Right now, I want a part time, flexible job that allows me to still be there for my daughter, but also to have a purpose outside of her. She is a great purpose to have, but I am ready for the next challenge.
I am a firm believer in everything happens for a reason and all those fun sayings, so I’m going to believe this interview process was to teach me that I am MORE than “just” a Mom. I am a great asset to who ever hires me in the future, and I will work hard for that person.
That’s just who I am.
Who are you?